Live for Today

In as much as you are working hard to achieve your goals and making plans to change your life into a more fulfilling existence, don’t lose sight of what is right in front of you. Remember to always live for today.

Working toward accomplishing a goal is a fantastic thing, so long as you do not allow it to take over your entire world. It’s easy to become so passionate and so driven that your goal becomes all consuming.

Be conscious of how your actions may be affecting those around you. Watch for the warning signs that you may be missing out on the life you should be living:

You scarf down your dinner to get back to your novel writing, instead of savouring the meal and spending time with your family. Or you don’t get to the table at all.

You skip your son’s performance in the school play because you were on a roll with a piece of your project, and you know that there will be another show next term.

You bail out on a night out with your friends, one you’ve all been planning for weeks, because the next step on your path to happiness is within your grasp.

You overhear your children commenting that you’re not joining the dog’s birthday celebration because you’re too busy with important stuff.

You might tell yourself that these are sacrifices you are making for the short term. Don’t kid yourself. Your friends and family are likely your biggest supporters. If you start treating them like they don’t matter, sooner than later you will receive those same sentiments in return. Your aspirations and success are less important to them than the time and effort you put into maintaining these relationships.

Also, although dinner with your family might seem inconsequential today, what you miss out on during that meal might be bigger than you expect. And once you miss something, you can’t get it back. Remember that the little things are the big things.

You never know what could happen tomorrow. Circumstances can change in the blink of an eye. Be sure to enjoy and appreciate those around you every moment of your life.

Life changes quickly. Don’t miss it. Don’t forget to live in the moment. Live for today. Appreciate what is happening right now.

 

“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.” ~ Albert Einstein

Expectations: Inspiration or Burden?

It stars when we are young. We do well in exams and our parents and teachers become so proud of us. They want us to do even better in the next exam. If we do better in the next exam, they want us to be the best. By the time we grow up, they expect nothing less than great things, extraordinary things from us. And it grows on to us. We want to fulfill what everybody is expecting from us. We want to fulfill what is expected from us. The sky becomes the limit. And even if we manage to reach sky high, it’s not enough. It’s never enough. And the cycle continues. We expect great things from our children- things that have never been done before-things that we couldn’t have done in our lives.
Expectation is a good thing. It pushes you to achieve excellence you would never have achieved in absence of expectation. It makes you try your butts off. But at the same time expectation can be a bit too much to handle. Everyone in this world has some limitations. Everyone can’t excel all the time. I mean what if Don Bradman’s parents expected him to be brilliant like Einstein or vice versa? What if they tried to become great in something which isn’t their specialty?
Sometimes expectation makes your world crumble. Just the constant pressure to be the best alone gets hold of the good in you. It blocks your thinking and stops you from being the wonderful and successful person you can be. The worst part is that it’s not just the friends and family or your boss that expect you to be the best- it’s you. You expect yourself to be the best. So the blame game doesn’t work and it sucks. Expectation becomes a heavy burden on your shoulders which you can rarely carry. Even if you can carry it- it’s too heavy for you to reach the sky with it.
You can’t excel without expectation, without the drive to be better and you can’t excel if expectation pressurizes you to carry on a path which you are not meant to take. So what we are looking at is basically a balancing act. Cut yourself some slack. Shake off the expectations when it becomes a burden. The world won’t end if you are not the best in your field. Being the best would be great but being the best you can be is not bad either. Try and understand your limitations. Perhaps what is expected from you isn’t your strength. Perhaps your glory lies in being a wonderful person who might not be the best in professional life but undoubtedly is the best father/mother/sister/brother/son/daughter and friend. Being the best you is pretty darn good if you ask me. And that is what we should expect from anyone- not the best in the field or world- just be the best you.

Listen to your inner voice

Remember how your parents told you that if something seemed too good to be true, it likely was? The same rules apply to your inner voice: if it doesn’t feel right, it likely isn’t.

“Every time I’ve done something that doesn’t feel right, it’s ended up not being right” ~ Mario Cuomo

So many of us have learned to ignore the little voice of reason we all have, in favour of keeping up with the Joneses. Although we are afraid that what we think or feel is ‘wrong’ we tend to make bigger mistakes because we aren’t being true to ourselves. We are too worried about how the world is judging us. We have all made that expensive purchase beyond our means because everyone else did. We knew we couldn’t afford the item, but did it anyway. It didn’t feel right and our instincts told us it was a bad idea, but we ignored our feelings. Again, the reliable parental wisdom might come to mind: if Johnny jumps off the bridge are you going to jump too?

“Every time you don’t follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness.” ~ Shakti Gawain

Not respecting that deep down you are the only one who truly knows what you need and want out of life will leave you unsatisfied and unhappy. For some, this realization comes slowly over time. For others, the realization is more of a lightning bolt: you have everything you thought you wanted and met you goals, but are still unfulfilled.

“It is only by following your deepest instinct that you can lead a rich life.” ~ Katharine Butler Hathaway

Reconnecting with your inner voice may mean you start to question many aspects of your current life. You might start to question why you live in the house you do, dress a certain way, drive a particular class of vehicle, or work in the field you are. These questions are all perfectly normal. They are the questions we should have been asking in the first place, but were too worried about our societal status to consider.

“Instinct is intelligence incapable of self-consciousness.” ~ John Sterling

Whether you like to call it listening to your inner voice, or going with your gut, or listening to your heart, it doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you start doing it.

Stop ignoring your instincts and learn to trust those gut feelings.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” ~ Albert Einstein

Peace Out 🙂

Positive does not mean you’re always cheery

Having a positive attitude or outlook does not mean you are cheery all the time. Just because you are living a happier life does not mean you will be smiling and accepting of everything, every day. Everyone gets the blues or has a bad day. Not letting it get to you and how you deal with a down day is the key.

If you always have a negative attitude, things will be more likely to cause you stress. It’s a downward spiral, and it can be very difficult to shake. With a negative attitude, you tend to spread the misery. If you are having a bad day, you are more likely to take out your frustrations on the server who accidentally brought you French fries instead of a baked potato. Like your mother always said: if you have nothing nice to say, keep it to yourself.

What a positive attitude will help you to do is realize that mistakes happen, and that the world is not going to end because someone brought you the wrong potatoes. In the grand scheme of things, the mistake is completely insignificant.

Even with a positive attitude, you will have frustrations. You will not always have a smile on your face. You will be sad or angry in some moments, or even for entire days. Having a positive outlook does not mean you will accept everything presented to you. It does not mean you will not argue with your spouse or children. It does not mean you will like everything or everyone.

Positivity is contagious. The quickest way to improve your world is to improve yourself and your perspective on life. It’s all in how you look at things. Sometimes you will look and feel that things are total crap. But do you dwell on that, or do you find a solution?

Perhaps someone close to you has passed away. You will feel sadness and grief, but you can’t fix the situation; you can’t bring them back; you need to move on. This doesn’t mean you will forget them or not be sad for a while, but it will pass. If you let it get you down, you might never leave the house.

Don’t suppress any negative feelings you may have, but instead acknowledge them and deal with them in a positive fashion. Noting your emotions in your journal is a great way to express what you are feeling. Writing things down will also help you see that many things are just minor bumps in the road in the big picture of life.

Peace Out 🙂

Shake what your momma gave you

Getting your body moving is a great way to improve your mood, and getting a little exercise throughout your day doesn’t hurt either. Fitting in some simple movement is much easier than people realize.

Too many people focus on exercise as being a structured work out, but really all you need to do is get moving. Taking a walk, playing with your children, or going for a swim will do just fine. At the office, make a point of getting up from your desk. There are all kinds of ‘desk exercises’ and stretching instructions available online, such as these tips from wikiHow . Print your document at a printer on another floor, and take the stairs to go retrieve it. Take the stairs instead of the elevator whenever possible. Park your car at the far end of the lot and enjoy the longer walk to and from the building.

A fun way to get the serotonin pumping is to dance. Dancing is such a versatile activity:

You can dance alone, with a friend, or with a whole group of people.

You don’t need any special equipment, just a little music.

You can do it anywhere, any time. (Well, almost. Dancing in the shower could be dangerous!)

Dancing allows you to let loose, maybe get a little crazy, and you can be very creative. Go to a club with a group of friends, or take a ballroom dancing class. One of my favourite ways to take in this activity is by dancing around the house, alone. I put on some great songs, turn up the stereo, and just go for it. I’m sure anyone watching would wonder what got into me, but who cares! You don’t have to have the ‘best’ moves. Give it a try some time and you will find the feeling of freedom you get from moving around to the great music playing will lift your spirits in no time. Doing a little ‘shaking’ while vacuuming, folding laundry, or washing the dishes makes the task a little more enjoyable too. You can find all sorts of ways to do a little exercise without any real challenge to fit a workout into your day, and you will feel better for your efforts.

So crank up your favourite tunes from your playlist and get moving!

 

Keep your relationships healthy and transparent

Our lives depend on the relationships we have. Our relationships with our family and friends have great impact on our personal life where as relationships at the workplace controls our career. Relationships are like baby trees. You have to nurture them, keep them clean and protected. Otherwise they will become dull and eventually, dead. You certainly don’t want your relations to become dull or dead.

Our relationships are most affected by our hectic work schedules and busy life. Your problems are never only yours. They affect your relationships very badly. Sometimes a bad relationship can become an unbearable burden to you. That’s why it is so important to keep your relationships healthy and transparent. With our extra busy life it’s not easy to take care of the relationships. But there are some steps we can follow to keep our relationships healthy.

Steps of keeping a healthy relationship:

  1. Don’t avoid a problem in a relationship. If any problem occurs, speak directly and explain it.
  2. If you can’t do something, let the person know. Don’t keep your commitments hanging in the air.
  3. If you are offended by someone’s words or action, tell them directly. Tolerance never does any good.
  4. Don’t suppress your anger or annoyance for too long. Because if you keep suppressing them, they will just become intolerable and you will outburst. It is not good for your health or your relationship.
  5. If you can’t support an action or a decision, speak it out. Don’t pressurize yourself to accept something you can’t support.
  6. Be strong. Don’t give in to someone’s illegitimate demands. Don’t lose your self-respect while trying to please someone else. Don’t pressurize yourself into doing something just in the name of good sport.
  7. Too much modesty is not good. You don’t have to be too polite. Just keep the necessary respect.
  8. Never insult yourself trying to socialize or be popular. Always take what’s rightfully yours and respect others rights.
  9. Let others know what you like and what you don’t. By keeping mum you just insult yourself and your choices.
  10. You have to stand up for your rights. Learn to be tough when it’s necessary. Sometimes saying ‘NO’ to an unjust demand is the best you can do.

 

There will always be problems in life. It’s the same with relationships. There will be bumps in the road. Sometimes you will be able to solve them; sometimes they will knock you down. But if you try to avoid them, it will just increase pressure on your mind, create distances, and harm your relationship. In the ride of life, your relationships will ride along with you all the time. And if you keep your relationships healthy and transparent, they will be your aid in the troublesome times. If you don’t, they can add more problems to your already troubled life. You have to decide what you want your relationships to be- your savior or your burden.

Peace Out 🙂

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Finding your Inspiration

Inspiration does not come with a rule book. There is no one-size-fits-all. Often what inspires you will be meaningless to someone else. Where they see a river, you may see a flowing blue-green path full of life that has seen wonders along its shores of which you can only imagine.

Motivation requires action. Inspiration on the other hand, is more of an idea, and can come from anywhere at any time. Inspiration is a feeling deep within yourself that you must do something. There may be no logical reason why, you just know that you must. Inspiration is the spark that gets you started. Motivation is what will keep you going.

So, where might you find inspiration? It’s all around you.

Inspiration may sneak up and tap your shoulder you while you are playing with your children, cooking a meal, driving to work, reading a great book, or even while you are taking a shower. These are all routine activities and a time when your mind is allowed to wander. This is exactly the time that the doors of possibility open and inspiration slips inside.

Doodling is a great activity for opening the door. Let your mind be free of the clutter of life. Who cares if your stick people are lacking character! Just have fun with it. With a clear mind you will find random ideas start to creep in. Great ideas, crazy ideas, incredible ideas.

Another place inspiration can be found is at your local market. Let your senses be stimulated by the sights and smells of the season, the activity of the merchants selling their goods, and the taste of the dishes you will create with your purchases. An art gallery or museums are other good places to visit when looking for inspiration.

Many times we are inspired by the acts of others who have completed amazing feats like climbing a mountain, or who have dedicated their lives to helping others. You may be inspired by love, by a friendship, or by nature.

I find inspiration in my little girl. She inspires me to want to lead a better, happier, fulfilling life. She inspires me to want to become someone who will inspire her.

Inspiration will find you when you least expect it. When it does find you, recognize its potential and happily take the ride. Perhaps you will become an inspiration to someone else along the way.

Peace Out

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Find your passion

Everyone in this world has some talent. It could be anything from being a mastermind to knowing how to grow crops. No one is talentless in true sense. Yet some people use their talent to shine and rise above all when others lag behind. Those people have found their passion and followed it. If you have a passion then you already know about its power. If you don’t have one, I’m sure you’ve been told plenty of times to find one. Passion drives you to try your best to make it work. Passion works as a fuel for all the sacrifices you make to achieve your goal. Without passion, it’s really tough to stay focused on your goal especially with all these extreme pressures of the race of being successful. If you do something you’re not passionate about, you can’t be successful. Even if you become successful, it will last for a very short period until you get frustrated and give up. Because when you are not passionate about something, you don’t feel happy and satisfied rather you feel trapped, which is the last thing anyone would ever want to feel. So you must have a passion. But the question is, how to find one if you have none? Well, there is no straight cut formula or path to find your passion. It’s not available in Google maps! But there are some steps which might help you to find your passion. All you have to do is be eager enough to find it.

How to find your passion:

  1. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. For a moment forget about your situation, your worries, your duties, forget everything that you are supposed to be taking care of.
  2. Now think back of your happy days. Perhaps your school years? Just think of a time when you didn’t feel pressurized about being someone in life.
  3. Think about the things you loved to do. Things that you were interested in. Things that made you happy. Things that you were good in doing. Perhaps you were good in drawing or cooking? There has to be something you loved and were good in. No matter how small you think of this work and how absolutely silly and impossible it may seem to you now, just give it a chance.
  4. Now try to find the reasons for you to love that work. And try to find out if you still feel the same because if you do, you’ve found your passion.
  5. If that doesn’t help, then try to find something that interests you. Something that you would love doing for the rest of your life.

 

Life is never easy and we have to deal with tons of things. Sometimes responsibility, sometimes circumstances take away the chance of pursuing our passions. But you have to remember that you only live once and you deserve to be happy in this short period. Whatever it is that’s standing between you and your passion, you can overcome it. In this competitive world where everything is judged by its price, it won’t be easy to find your passion and follow it. But you must be strong and fight for it. You just have to trust in yourself, and success will come running after you.

Peace Out 🙂

Think like a champion

There are always times when we feel like luck has turned against us. That everything is going wrong and the word around us is collapsing. And there are people who have the perfect life you always wished for. Those who rule life like champions. What you have to know that, the person who has everything on his side, doesn’t have any super power, or luck favoritism. Yes, he is talented and special but so are you. The only thing that makes someone successful and others not is the mindset. To become a champion, you have to think like a champion. The people who are successful in their fields always think that nothing is impossible for them as long as they try hard. If you keep thinking that something is not possible for you then it will become impossible though you had the potentials for doing it. Because you already gave up on trying thinking you can’t do this. Negative thinking compels us on quitting things in the middle while positive thinking drives us, makes us work harder to achieve our goals. Negative thinking stops us from facing the problem and creates illusions making us addicted to thinking negatives. As a result you lose everything. So the first step towards success is to let go negative thinking and start thinking positively.

How to stop negative thinking:

  1. First you have to identify the negative thoughts.
  2. Challenge the negative thoughts. Are they right? Are they necessary? Are they helpful? Ask yourself these questions.
  3. Practice positive thinking. Whenever any negative thought comes to your mind, try to think something positive. Diverting your mind is always helpful. Make yourself busy with some work so your mind doesn’t get time to ponder over the negative thought.

 

Practice positive thinking:

  1. Tell yourself repeatedly that you can do this.
  2. Tell yourself that you deserve more than what you settle for and there’s no reason that you shouldn’t get your goal.
  3. Even if there are reasons for you to not succeed, you can beat them all.
  4. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Keep yourself reminding that you are a gifted person and so very special.

When you have the right mind set and believe in your abilities everything seems possible and that gives you the strength to fight for what you want and makes you a winner. So think positively to get your goals.

Motivation

Knowing what drives you to succeed is a powerful tool to have in your self-development arsenal. When you know what motivates you, you can seek out that driving force when you just don’t feel like taking another step.

 

Motivators are factors in your life that drive you to succeed and are not fleeting. They are things that provide you with a deep sense that you must continue on the path toward your goals.

 

Although perceived as a great motivator, money is actually rated very low in many employee surveys. That’s because money doesn’t make you feel good long-term. Having extra money makes you excited for a little while, like when you find a $20 in last season’s coat pocket, but then you spend it, and the feeling is gone.

 

Perhaps you think you are motivated by money. Consider what it is about having money is actually motivating you. It is more likely that your motivation is a sense of security: having savings for emergencies or retirement; knowing you can pay the bills month to month; paying off a debt or mortgage.

 

Are you motivated by being part of a group or club? Being part of a group of people who share the same interests and from whom you can learn something can be a fantastic motivator. The sense of community and belonging may motivate you to join other special interest groups, or want to do more for others and inspire you to volunteer at charity events.

 

Many people are motivated by recognition, whether they are recognized in big ways or small ones, from the boss emailing the whole company to congratulate you on a job well done, to a co-worker telling you how impressed they were with your work on a project. It is often the quieter forms of recognition that we receive each day that mean more, and are most often overlooked, like when your family tells you what a fabulous dinner you made, or your child thanks you for reading them a story. Try to be more aware of the simple recognition in your daily life, both in what you receive as well as that which you give.

 

Accomplishment is also a great motivator. That sense that you have completed something and can say ‘I did it!’ Maybe it’s the mental challenge of the morning crossword in the newspaper, or committing to taking a walk every day and actually doing it.  It’s that wonderful sensation that you showed yourself (and possibly the world) that you could do it, that makes you want to complete other tasks and goals.

 

There is a strong motivator out there that has to be treated rather cautiously: competition. Too often the drive to be the top salesperson at your firm, or having the best bowling score can become an obsession, and you lose sight of the truly important things in your life. If competition is your biggest motivator, you likely find subtle and not so subtle was to make everything a game where there is a clear winner. Be careful of this motivator! Do not be sucked into the belief that you are nothing if you aren’t the best, or that the only outcome of not winning is losing.

 

All of these motivators create those lasting ‘feel good’ vibes. When you start to feel defeated and like you don’t know why you are trying to do something, tap into your motivators to get you back on track.

 

What gets you off the proverbial couch and moving in the direction of your goals?

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