The fact that you are unhappy has now become glaringly apparent. You have become aware that this place in life is not where you want to be. But what now?
Unknowingly, you have made the first step: you have acknowledged that something is wrong. Next you need to recognize that no one is going to make the changes for you. You are going to have to take action and work hard to achieve the happier life you seek.
People often try to make too many changes at once. This is when they become frustrated, and give up.
Making changes to your life is like losing weight. You didn’t put the pounds on over night, so you can’t expect them to come off over night. Change takes time. You will need to unlearn your bad habits and replace them with good ones. You will need to figure out what you want, and create detailed plans to achieve your goals.
Another mistake people make is to start with the biggest or most difficult change, without breaking the challenge into smaller, more attainable steps.
A great place to start the journey of change, is to schedule an afternoon all to yourself. Plan to spend the time somewhere peaceful. Maybe you have a favourite park. The important thing is that you are alone and have some quiet time to clear your mind. Be sure to bring a notepad and pen. Do not bring an electronic device. In fact, leave your phone at home. Completely disconnect. The time should be spent focussing on you.
Take a few moments to observe the nature around you. Breathe in the fresh air. Feel the calm relaxation wash over you. You will now begin your list of requirements for your ideal life. Write down everything that comes to mind.
Be conscious of the fact that material possessions will never make you truly happy. A list that starts with ‘I want a 12-car garage attached to my 20 bedroom home with a closet that holds all the clothes I can buy’ indicates you are not yet aware of what makes you feel fulfilled.
This is not to say that the request above is wrong. There are no wrong answers. Perhaps you need the 12-car garage because you dream of restoring sports cars. And the 20 bedrooms are for the numerous children you wish to have in your life.
This exercise is not about analyzing your dreams to decide if the request is realistic. Nor is it about defining what you want to do and who you want to be. It’s okay to say ‘I don’t know what I want to do with my life’. Don’t stress about it. Being aware that you don’t know is what will make you start to look at your life more analytically. You will quickly recognize what parts of your life make you happy.
The point of the list is to begin to see the destination. Knowing where you want to go will help you map out how to get there.
Do not put a time limit on making your list. Once you have written all you can think of while in the park, keep the list somewhere close by for the next few days. You may find you come up with more to add as the ideas stew and evolve in your imagination.
Embrace the feeling created by writing down your dreams. This is your mind opening to the possibilities of a better, happier life. This is your mind becoming aware that change is achievable. You are ready to take the journey, one step at a time.
Have a Mojo Day
Peace Out 🙂