Positive does not mean you’re always cheery
Having a positive attitude or outlook does not mean you are cheery all the time. Just because you are living a happier life does not mean you will be smiling and accepting of everything, every day. Everyone gets the blues or has a bad day. Not letting it get to you and how you deal with a down day is the key.
If you always have a negative attitude, things will be more likely to cause you stress. It’s a downward spiral, and it can be very difficult to shake. With a negative attitude, you tend to spread the misery. If you are having a bad day, you are more likely to take out your frustrations on the server who accidentally brought you French fries instead of a baked potato. Like your mother always said: if you have nothing nice to say, keep it to yourself.
What a positive attitude will help you to do is realize that mistakes happen, and that the world is not going to end because someone brought you the wrong potatoes. In the grand scheme of things, the mistake is completely insignificant.
Even with a positive attitude, you will have frustrations. You will not always have a smile on your face. You will be sad or angry in some moments, or even for entire days. Having a positive outlook does not mean you will accept everything presented to you. It does not mean you will not argue with your spouse or children. It does not mean you will like everything or everyone.
Positivity is contagious. The quickest way to improve your world is to improve yourself and your perspective on life. It’s all in how you look at things. Sometimes you will look and feel that things are total crap. But do you dwell on that, or do you find a solution?
Perhaps someone close to you has passed away. You will feel sadness and grief, but you can’t fix the situation; you can’t bring them back; you need to move on. This doesn’t mean you will forget them or not be sad for a while, but it will pass. If you let it get you down, you might never leave the house.
Don’t suppress any negative feelings you may have, but instead acknowledge them and deal with them in a positive fashion. Noting your emotions in your journal is a great way to express what you are feeling. Writing things down will also help you see that many things are just minor bumps in the road in the big picture of life.
Peace Out 🙂