Archive for the month “October, 2012”

Listen to your inner voice

Remember how your parents told you that if something seemed too good to be true, it likely was? The same rules apply to your inner voice: if it doesn’t feel right, it likely isn’t.

“Every time I’ve done something that doesn’t feel right, it’s ended up not being right” ~ Mario Cuomo

So many of us have learned to ignore the little voice of reason we all have, in favour of keeping up with the Joneses. Although we are afraid that what we think or feel is ‘wrong’ we tend to make bigger mistakes because we aren’t being true to ourselves. We are too worried about how the world is judging us. We have all made that expensive purchase beyond our means because everyone else did. We knew we couldn’t afford the item, but did it anyway. It didn’t feel right and our instincts told us it was a bad idea, but we ignored our feelings. Again, the reliable parental wisdom might come to mind: if Johnny jumps off the bridge are you going to jump too?

“Every time you don’t follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness.” ~ Shakti Gawain

Not respecting that deep down you are the only one who truly knows what you need and want out of life will leave you unsatisfied and unhappy. For some, this realization comes slowly over time. For others, the realization is more of a lightning bolt: you have everything you thought you wanted and met you goals, but are still unfulfilled.

“It is only by following your deepest instinct that you can lead a rich life.” ~ Katharine Butler Hathaway

Reconnecting with your inner voice may mean you start to question many aspects of your current life. You might start to question why you live in the house you do, dress a certain way, drive a particular class of vehicle, or work in the field you are. These questions are all perfectly normal. They are the questions we should have been asking in the first place, but were too worried about our societal status to consider.

“Instinct is intelligence incapable of self-consciousness.” ~ John Sterling

Whether you like to call it listening to your inner voice, or going with your gut, or listening to your heart, it doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you start doing it.

Stop ignoring your instincts and learn to trust those gut feelings.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” ~ Albert Einstein

Peace Out 🙂

Positive does not mean you’re always cheery

Having a positive attitude or outlook does not mean you are cheery all the time. Just because you are living a happier life does not mean you will be smiling and accepting of everything, every day. Everyone gets the blues or has a bad day. Not letting it get to you and how you deal with a down day is the key.

If you always have a negative attitude, things will be more likely to cause you stress. It’s a downward spiral, and it can be very difficult to shake. With a negative attitude, you tend to spread the misery. If you are having a bad day, you are more likely to take out your frustrations on the server who accidentally brought you French fries instead of a baked potato. Like your mother always said: if you have nothing nice to say, keep it to yourself.

What a positive attitude will help you to do is realize that mistakes happen, and that the world is not going to end because someone brought you the wrong potatoes. In the grand scheme of things, the mistake is completely insignificant.

Even with a positive attitude, you will have frustrations. You will not always have a smile on your face. You will be sad or angry in some moments, or even for entire days. Having a positive outlook does not mean you will accept everything presented to you. It does not mean you will not argue with your spouse or children. It does not mean you will like everything or everyone.

Positivity is contagious. The quickest way to improve your world is to improve yourself and your perspective on life. It’s all in how you look at things. Sometimes you will look and feel that things are total crap. But do you dwell on that, or do you find a solution?

Perhaps someone close to you has passed away. You will feel sadness and grief, but you can’t fix the situation; you can’t bring them back; you need to move on. This doesn’t mean you will forget them or not be sad for a while, but it will pass. If you let it get you down, you might never leave the house.

Don’t suppress any negative feelings you may have, but instead acknowledge them and deal with them in a positive fashion. Noting your emotions in your journal is a great way to express what you are feeling. Writing things down will also help you see that many things are just minor bumps in the road in the big picture of life.

Peace Out 🙂

Shake what your momma gave you

Getting your body moving is a great way to improve your mood, and getting a little exercise throughout your day doesn’t hurt either. Fitting in some simple movement is much easier than people realize.

Too many people focus on exercise as being a structured work out, but really all you need to do is get moving. Taking a walk, playing with your children, or going for a swim will do just fine. At the office, make a point of getting up from your desk. There are all kinds of ‘desk exercises’ and stretching instructions available online, such as these tips from wikiHow . Print your document at a printer on another floor, and take the stairs to go retrieve it. Take the stairs instead of the elevator whenever possible. Park your car at the far end of the lot and enjoy the longer walk to and from the building.

A fun way to get the serotonin pumping is to dance. Dancing is such a versatile activity:

You can dance alone, with a friend, or with a whole group of people.

You don’t need any special equipment, just a little music.

You can do it anywhere, any time. (Well, almost. Dancing in the shower could be dangerous!)

Dancing allows you to let loose, maybe get a little crazy, and you can be very creative. Go to a club with a group of friends, or take a ballroom dancing class. One of my favourite ways to take in this activity is by dancing around the house, alone. I put on some great songs, turn up the stereo, and just go for it. I’m sure anyone watching would wonder what got into me, but who cares! You don’t have to have the ‘best’ moves. Give it a try some time and you will find the feeling of freedom you get from moving around to the great music playing will lift your spirits in no time. Doing a little ‘shaking’ while vacuuming, folding laundry, or washing the dishes makes the task a little more enjoyable too. You can find all sorts of ways to do a little exercise without any real challenge to fit a workout into your day, and you will feel better for your efforts.

So crank up your favourite tunes from your playlist and get moving!

 

Keep your relationships healthy and transparent

Our lives depend on the relationships we have. Our relationships with our family and friends have great impact on our personal life where as relationships at the workplace controls our career. Relationships are like baby trees. You have to nurture them, keep them clean and protected. Otherwise they will become dull and eventually, dead. You certainly don’t want your relations to become dull or dead.

Our relationships are most affected by our hectic work schedules and busy life. Your problems are never only yours. They affect your relationships very badly. Sometimes a bad relationship can become an unbearable burden to you. That’s why it is so important to keep your relationships healthy and transparent. With our extra busy life it’s not easy to take care of the relationships. But there are some steps we can follow to keep our relationships healthy.

Steps of keeping a healthy relationship:

  1. Don’t avoid a problem in a relationship. If any problem occurs, speak directly and explain it.
  2. If you can’t do something, let the person know. Don’t keep your commitments hanging in the air.
  3. If you are offended by someone’s words or action, tell them directly. Tolerance never does any good.
  4. Don’t suppress your anger or annoyance for too long. Because if you keep suppressing them, they will just become intolerable and you will outburst. It is not good for your health or your relationship.
  5. If you can’t support an action or a decision, speak it out. Don’t pressurize yourself to accept something you can’t support.
  6. Be strong. Don’t give in to someone’s illegitimate demands. Don’t lose your self-respect while trying to please someone else. Don’t pressurize yourself into doing something just in the name of good sport.
  7. Too much modesty is not good. You don’t have to be too polite. Just keep the necessary respect.
  8. Never insult yourself trying to socialize or be popular. Always take what’s rightfully yours and respect others rights.
  9. Let others know what you like and what you don’t. By keeping mum you just insult yourself and your choices.
  10. You have to stand up for your rights. Learn to be tough when it’s necessary. Sometimes saying ‘NO’ to an unjust demand is the best you can do.

 

There will always be problems in life. It’s the same with relationships. There will be bumps in the road. Sometimes you will be able to solve them; sometimes they will knock you down. But if you try to avoid them, it will just increase pressure on your mind, create distances, and harm your relationship. In the ride of life, your relationships will ride along with you all the time. And if you keep your relationships healthy and transparent, they will be your aid in the troublesome times. If you don’t, they can add more problems to your already troubled life. You have to decide what you want your relationships to be- your savior or your burden.

Peace Out 🙂

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