How To Be Successful.
Success to me is enjoying life. I don’t think life is meant to be a struggle. I genuinely believe that we are here to have a delightful life.
Often when I ask people what success means to them they will rattle of the thingsthey want in life, they think they will have success when they get this or that. There’s nothing wrong with wanting things that you will get pleasure from, but that is secondary.If you are enjoying life then you are successful.
One of the ways in which you can become more successful in life, that is to enjoy life is to find your purpose in life. I don’t mean this in a metaphysical sense, I mean doing what you love and loving what you do and making a living out of this. Your purpose becomes your job, your profession. If you love your work then it doesn’t feel like work at all.
There is no one else in the world exactly like you. No one with the same personality and characteristics, with the same outlook on life, no one can explain things the way you do. You are unique and you have a gift to share with the world, this is your purpose, to be your authentic self.
I believe when we come into this world we know who we are, we know what we want to have and what we want to do. We know what our purpose is. We believed in ourselves and we trusted ourselves. Then the process of social conditioning started, social conditioning is “a sociological process of training individuals in a society to act or respond in a manner generally approved by the society in general and peer groups within society.”
Instead of developing our unique abilities and aspirations we began to do what other people expected of us, we started doing what other people wanted us to do and being what other people wanted us to be. We have an inner war going on, a conflict between what we really want and what we think we have to do because it is more practical, or because we have been told we can’t do what we want to do.
Isn’t it time we started to honour our true self. The way towards success is to rediscover your true self, consciously choose the life you want to live. Decide for yourself what is important in your life, what you value and start setting goals and taking steps towards living your life with purpose, enjoying your life. Follow your heart, follow your dreams. Stop listening to other people, it’s your life and all that matters is what is going to make you happy. Your aim is to do what fulfills you.
A good place to start is to look at your values. Click HERE to get a comprehensive list of values under the resources list. The next 3 steps will help you on your way to becoming your authentic self, enjoying your life and becoming successful.
- Go through the list, writing down what you value.
For many people this will be the first time that they have actually sat down and really thought about what they value. Up until now it hasn’t been clear to them at all.
2. Narrow the list down to your top 5-10 most important values. These will be what you feel most passionate about. You will get a rush of excitement or a feeling of peace or you may feel relief that you have discovered this. Almost always there will be some kind of emotional response when you discover what you think is truely important to have in your life.
3. Under each value write down why you this value is important to you. Ask yourself why is this important to me? What does this mean to me? Often people will find themselves writing things like ‘my father said I should…..’, ‘society expects this of me’, ‘all my friends do this’. You discover that you have based your life’s decisions on something you don’t care for.
You now have the ability to consciously choose what it is you value in life and start planning your new life, your new direction, your new goals around your true values. Be the successful person you were meant to be, enjoy life by discovering your true self and living authentically.
Peace Out 🙂